Breaking Generational Curses,

When my now wife and I became engaged six years ago, we knew we wanted a different life than our families’ lives. Our families were hard working and loving, but were also plagued with addiction, mental illness, instability, abandonment, and abuse. We yearned for a faith/grace-based relationship full of love, support, connection, and meaning. And we especially wanted to model those values for our nieces, nephews, and peers. However, we didn’t know where to start, or what new skills and perspectives to learn.

Then God brought Reverend Love into our lives. He pastored my wife’s Grandfather’s funeral. We knew instantly that our meeting was divine intervention. We soon started premarital counseling, and on April 30th 2016, Reverend Love married us before God and our families. Five plus years later, we still meet regularly with Reverend Love for monthly marital counseling. He has helped us build a God and Kingdom first, covenant-marriage.

During our years of counseling, we’ve learned the tenants of a Faith-based family, how to manage our finances the Kingdom way, orient our marriage to God’s word, to pray properly, ways to successfully communicate our feelings and needs to one another, to preemptively resolve conflict, and to forgive. Counseling, prayer, and regular bible study help us navigate the everyday challenges of partnership.

We wake up every day deeper in Love with God, and one another. Best of all, our nieces and nephews (now young adults), ask us about our relationship, and how we solve problems. Other married friends ask us how we’ve built such a strong partnership. Husbands ask me how they can effectively partner with their wives Single male friends ask me how they can find a partner like mine. Secular friends ask me about God, and being a Christian. We enthusiastically give all the glory to God, and Reverend Love!

If you want a healthier marriage/family, or to position yourself for a future healthy relationship, I highly recommend starting marital/relationship counseling with Reverend Love.
Mario de Leon


I met Pastor Kenneth during one of his monthly visits to preach in the county jail. His transparency of being a man of God and recovering addict, who currently struggles was the spark of hope that I needed. I have struggled with sexual issues that drove my drug addiction deeper and longer than necessary and kept me believing I was not entirely accepted by God.

When I joined the 'Not yet done' Men's Group, I was encouraged to share my deepest darkest secrets openly. I did so with tremendous fear, but instead of humiliation from the group, I felt love and acceptance. Something I've never experienced before.

Since then, I've shared my story numerous times on many different platforms. I've abstained from using alcohol, drugs, and tobacco for over three years. I've learned to love and forgive myself. Most importantly, I've built a guilt-free relationship with Jesus Christ that has allowed me to move forward in my recovery.

In just three years, I have reconciled with my teenage daughter, graduated from De Anza College with an AA degree, and accepted to attend San Jose State University in the fall of 2020.

I'm not sure where I'd be without BREAKFREE MINISTRIES.
Kevin M. Williams


"The Lord works in mysterious ways" have you ever heard that phrase?

I have known Pastor Kenneth Love and the work he does with BreakFree Ministries for over 15 years. In fact, he is one of the men who baptized me. I have been on several retreats where I have heard him teach and I have had many conversations with him about recovery, spirituality, and living life on life's terms. Pastor Love has had a great impact on my life, my recovery, and my walk with the Lord. I am grateful to him for many things but one I want to highlight in this testimony is the work he has done with me in restoring the relationship between my father and me.

I have not seen my father for 30 years and truthfully I have always hoped that one day he and I could talk and be friends. I never knew how it would be possible or what a relationship like that would look like and not knowing and being afraid to find out was what has kept me from trying for so long.

In one counseling session with Pastor Love, he was listening to my story and when I spoke of, my dad, he brought to my attention that it sounded like I had a distorted view of who my father was. I agreed but then he said he felt that one day my father and I would reunite and I was shocked, (in a good way.) I had longed for the day that this could happen but I was never brave enough to speak it into existence.

In less than a month I was on a plane to see my dad and we had a great time together. He shared with me some things he struggled with in the past and how the years slipped away but he always prayed for us and also hoped that one day we would reunite. It is hard to fully express all that had happened during that trip but I know that the healing began for me and my dad, and I want to express my gratitude to Pastor Kenneth Love and BreakFree Ministries for that.

Pastor Love cares a great deal for each person he works with and is devoted to personal and family growth so that healing and happiness can be restored.
Ricky Wade and the Wade family


“Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile” Mother Teresa

It is ironic that this particular quote mirrored the philosophy of my office in the way myself and my staff treated our patients, yet it was a rare day that I would leave my office feeling better and happier. The desire of my heart to own my own business, became the contributor to my daily misery. How did I cope? Not very well. I turned to answers that satisfied my need at the moment, but in total was not life-giving nor fulfilling. Although, I lived my life for nearly 8 years free of alcohol through sheer will, my inner turmoil over not addressing the hurts of the past mixed with the present hurts I created, forced those closest to me into a life of walking on eggshells. My children didn’t feel safe to express their feelings, my wife was ready to leave me, and I lived unsatisfied with the man I had become. A dry drunk with compulsive behaviors was not my childhood aspiration.

Proactively, my wife sought counseling from Pastor Kenneth Love and urged me to join her. Of course, I was reluctant, believing my own self-will and a good self-help book, can improve my situation. Who needed another set of eyes peering judgingly into the cracks of my marriage after feeling condemned by a previous pastor? I was not ready for that kind of criticism. However, after listening to his “progressive sanctification” sermon and realizing it lined up with my own failing forward belief gave me courage to step into his office.

Pastor Kenneth Love shared the spirit of Mother Teresa’s quote embodied by a man who struggled with his own addictions, much like me. This characteristic made him instantly relatable, credible, and his transparency offered openness when my own instinct to expose raw feelings became overwhelmingly self-protective. Ironically, after a few sessions with him, I often left feeling quite the opposite of that quote. Not necessarily happier at the moment, but true to his sermon, failing forward meant being open and honest about my character flaws despite the impact on my pride and have the willingness to work on them to be better and happier around those I love in the long term. Most assuredly, this is what one can expect from BreakFree Ministries and Pastor Kenneth Love. You will find healing in your relationships, healing within yourself, and the skills through your journey in life living clean.

Rolando Bercasio

When I first reached out to Minister Love of BreakFree Ministries, I had no idea what to expect. I knew I had some issues from my childhood that I wanted to get healing from that I knew were issues in my adult life. Little did I know almost 10 years ago that I would gain the knowledge, and more importantly for myself, strength in ways only God himself could give me to get through the struggles I was about to face thereafter.

I was in a relationship back then that eventually turned into an engagement. I knew if I was to become a wife I wanted to be healed from my past hurts and trauma. I learned I was codependent and had no clue I had that particular issue with people in my life. Growing up I only knew of codependency being towards alcohol and drugs. I had no idea you could be this way towards people; and trust me that was eye opening.

As my counseling began, I was asked to join the women’s group, which focused on breaking free from family dysfunction, etc. I had no idea what I was walking into. My first thoughts were (after hearing all the issues the women in the group were dealing with)) man, I do not fit here at all. I thought my issues were from home and the relationship I was in at the time were minor compared to major drug/alcohol/adultery issues and more that they were dealing with. Looking back on it now, I was exactly where I was supposed to be.

Over the years, even after I stopped being in my women’s group and counseling with Minister Love, all the things I learned stuck with me. I don’t know where I would be if I never sent that email to Minister Love close to 10 years ago. My anger levels are not where they used to be. I have set boundaries with people that I do not stray from; and honestly have a better perspective on a lot of relationships and more because of it.

I am now back in the women’s group as of 2020 and co-facilitating the group. I am constantly growing and learning. My encouragement to others is to get proper healing of past hurts, so you can be at your best. Our job in my opinion is to help others from our own healing. God has bigger plans for my life and I know the best is yet to come. #BreakFreeSavedMeFromMyself!
Sojy Mathew


I grew up in a house where my dad gambled. Sometimes the gambling would start on a Friday night at our house, and would end on Sunday morning. Our family vaca6ons were to Reno, Lake Tahoe and Vegas. When my dad was winning we stayed in nice hotels and ate steak dinners. However, there were many times when we slept in the car in the casino’s parking lot, cold and freezing while my Dad gambled all night. My parents would fight all the 6me about money, lack of, or too much. I would escape by eating. At night, I would secretly go into the kitchen and eat even when I was not hungry. These behaviors followed me into adulthood. I did not know it but I was suffering from addiction and codependency.

I married an addict. I was always trying to control everything he did. We had kids, my life start- ed to spin out of control. Eventually, my marriage was over. We stopped fighting, I didn’t care, we didn’t speak to each other. It was more of a business relationship. On the outside we were a perfect family, we hosted bible studies, went to church on Sundays and looked happy in Christmas cards. In our home my husband looked at me with hatred and resentment. He eventually had an affair and I was going to take the kids and leave.

“And I am certain that God who began the good work within you, will continue his work un8l it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.” Philippians 1:6

God stepped in. I prayed for 48 hours, I asked God for two things, Lord can my husband love you and can he please love me again. That same month my coworker introduced me to Pastor Kenneth Love. He asked me why are you here in my office. I replied I don’t know. He prayed one prayer. Lord please help her become the women you intended her to be. That was 10 years ago.

My life was filled with fear, anxiety, resentment, hatred, and bitterness. My mom called me a door mat. I had no voice, an enabler, I allowed my husband do to whatever her wanted. Pastor Kenneth spent many hours counseling me and going over the 12 steps. He said just you wait your husband will be here in 6 months. He was right my husband started his counseling exactly 6 months after me.

We eventually started aWending the men’s and women’s groups. Life was good, until my husband got really sick. We eventually lost our business and I had to pray about a career change. Pastor Kenneth Love encouraged and prayed for me. I went back to school and received my Masters degree. Now I teach graduate students and published my research manuscript on burnout and self-care. I also joined Kaiser weight management and I am losing the weight I gained during all stress of losing our business. My husband and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. Pastor Kenneth Love renewed our vows on a quiet Sunday before the pandemic lock down. The Covid quarantine has brought us closer together and we have learned to fall in love again. It is like we are young and dating again. My husband and I are also leading the men’s group (Not Yet Done) and the women’s group (God’s Business Group). God has been so good, and I thank Pastor Kenneth Love and Ms. Marsha Love of Break Free Ministries for never giving up on our family.